"Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” is a very old saying and something that  in the  modern world of technology is often forgotten  in our relationships. We have almost come to the stage where we find it easier  to where we have more communication  using  our computers than with real relationships. The constant need for instantaneous replies  to our problems  and commands  means that we are slowly  loosing the know how to successfully  interact  with the ones we love.

When arriving home following a hard  day at work or when you have finished looking after the kids the best present you are able to  give to the one  you love is to listen, that’s  correct I did say listen! Get time for the two of you to have   a few moments   “us’ time, try starting  with something  easy  such as  “What was the best thing about your day?” it will allow  your partner the opportunity  to be frank about their day, in contrast to the every day “how was your day?” to which the reply can  be a one word answer - “Good”. In order that you can become  an attentive listener you must  ask open ended  questions that are unable to  be answered with a one word. Takes practice but the rewards  to your relationship are tremendous.

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Try to  be a listener first, that shows you respect your partner views, at the same time as remembering that ninety percent  of communication involving you is unspoken , to put it another way body language, your partner will rapidly see that you are not actually listening to what they are saying. This will help to destroy  your relationship given time eventually  arriving at the point  when they say  “you never listen to what I have to say……”, or even  worse “you only listen when you want something…………..”

Do not  interrupt them or try to finish their sentences for them, give them time, it is a little known  fact that we can process words at a much greater rate than we can say them, so just listen, be interested in what they say, put them first .

Whether your relationship is just beginning or  well established~ long standing}  thebest way to keep it together  is to listen to what your partner has to say about whatever is important to them, then say something only when you have finished listening  and understood what they have been speaking to you about. Sounds very deep I know, but if make assumptions that you know  what they mean without listening properly and give an incorrect response then follow it with the worst put down – ‘I thought that’s what you meant……….”, will get you into a lot of trouble. Neglect things now and you may well end up asking how to get my ex back

Listening is such a small thing to offer your partner, but over the  years I have found that one of the commonest  relationship issues  is frequently signaled, in  a relationship advice session, when one or other of them says “She/he never listens to a thing I say………………”, which almost invariably  indicates  that when  they communicate  they do not give each other time to listen, you know the “two ears, two eyes & one mouth” thing, means speak half as much as your listen and look .

Whatever age we are we each of us need  to know that the other wants to listen to  what we have to say and show us the respect we need  by listening, it can about anything  like, their opinion on the latest film/game/book/TV show/what happened in their day ……..the list can be never ending and it is often  trivial stuff but they need  to share it with YOU, all you have to do is to LISTEN.

Keep you love for each other young by talking everyday  and above all LISTENING to what the other has to say, Successful communication means  a successful relationship – understand? For more advice how to get your ex back

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