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The way things started
Quite often there are times in your relationship when you feel that you are failing, however these failings can be used as stepping stones to make your relationship stronger more successful. Through failure we often have the opportunity to learn the lessons that help us to grow, so never give up just keep trying to make your relationship stronger.

The secret to success is to keep trying, Michael Jordan the basket ball super star missed far more shots than he ever made during his career does anybody remember? Of course not they just remember his constant striving for the next basket. So that’s the way you need to be with your relationship keep striving for more strength and closeness in your relationship.

All relationships go through periods of stress that leads to problems, please remember during these times you are not alone and however bad you think things are the vast majority of couples manage to get over their problems. Keep trying. Just because you have not found a solution to your problem doesn’t mean that there is no solution.

Sit down together somewhere quiet where you will not be disturbed, switch off your cell phones, and be prepared to be totally honest with each other. Think back to the beginning of your relationship, when love was new, fresh and strong, then make a list, write it down if you can, of the promises you made too each other and the way you felt about those promises. Start by each making a list without the other seeing it, when you have finished take it in turns to read the list out.

This will give you both a clear idea of what is important to the other as it is human nature to remember most vividly those things that are closest to our hearts. Once you have finished you can combine the lists into one, starting with the things you agree on, then go onto the things you do not agree on – “Just because you have not found a solution to your problem doesn’t mean that there is no solution.” The list of things you do not agree on is where you will find your problem or problems, now is the time to try your best to solve your issues.

But, what can we do when our best is not enough? Is a question I often hear when friends have reached an impasse with their relationship. This is where the first part of your list comes into play. That was the part of the list that contains all the things you promised each other, when you first fell in love and that you still agree are important to you both.

Take these promises that you made each other and re-affirm them to each other, listen and co-operate with each other take your time go over each promise slowly and ensure that it still holds meaning to you both. Anticipate the feelings that these promises will bring flooding back and strive to retain that feeling in every aspect of your relationship.

If you get into this process but you feel that you cannot find a way out, do not be afraid to seek help. There are many sources that you can get or go to for relationship advice, your church will have some kind of reconciliation counselling available, there are professional relationship advisors that you can find in the yellow book. Or you can do what I did when I had a problem with my relationship I found this fantastic advice site “Magic of Making Up” by T Dub Jackson which we went through together and it helped us to work out our problems together and we are closer that ever now. Thanks T Dub.
 


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